So I know that there are certain sites I need to just stay the heck away from. In fact, they have been unliked or hidden long, long ago. Do you know what I'm talking about? Those sites that basically tell you everything you thought you were doing right is now wrong and you're pretty lucky your kid is alive even if chances are that now they're going to turn out to be serial killers? Yeah...those sites. Anything that goes on the co-sleeping/breast feeding tirade, I try to ignore by principal. I know better than to let some total strangers get the better of me...or so I thought.
Most recently, I managed to read a few things that have really put a bee in the ol' bonnet...on a facebook site that I do not subscribe to, but happened upon by accident. I found it the night of the "biting incident" when it was probably the last thing on earth I should have been reading. It was a place that discusses this utopia of all things parenting. Such a place exists apparently, and the people who live there all have perfect, glorious children who have never even hinted at the fact that they might, indeed be a toddler capable of awful things. So yeah, this was not something I needed to be reading after Brody bit the heck out of Linc's back. The fact that the moderator of the board answered my honest statement as convoluted and obscure as she did, really caused me to believe that the patchouli she has been sniffing since college has finally caught up with her.
To end this bitterness on a high note, I did want to share something positive that I found on Pinterest. If you're not already an addict...go there. Once. You'll see... But back to my point, I found this picture and I love it because I do not have a perfect kitchen, clean house, etc. But I do have what is most important:
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Love that saying! I have a pretty perfect and clean kitchen - but I have my cleaning lady to thank for it! With two working adults, she is a must.
Yep, I've had to "unlike" and "unfriend" some sites on Facebook because I just couldn't deal with the high handed "My way is the ONLY way" attitude. I only have one child, he's just a smidge over 9 months old. And I know, I KNOW that I don't know much about parenting. But I do think I know the important stuff. Make sure he doesn't hurt himself (just standing, testing out the walking and exploring EVERYTHING..mostly with his mouth it seems), keep him fed, try to keep him on a regular sleep schedule and just LOVE on him every chance you can. The rest, I just have to believe we'll figure out together with the occasional advice from his pediatrician, family and good friends. And frankly, I just don't NEED anyone wagging a virtual finger at me telling me I'm doing EVERYTHING wrong.
Don't worry, by the time your kids are grown, they will have decided everything they are preaching now is wrong, and if you did it that way, your kid is totally screwed up. The "correct way" to raise kids is always changing. As long as your kid is healthy and loved, just keep doing what you are doing! My son is 11 years old, and believe me, I have run into the sites, books, and even real-life parents, that claimed that their way is the only way, and I'm doing it all wrong. Funny thing is, all their ways were different! I think my son has turned out great so far: no big trouble, no major injuries, and he seems well-adjusted to me. So just remember Love, Love, Love and then some more Love!